The Quiet Negotiations of Trust

The hidden negotiations behind showing up, saying no, and choosing quiet.

Lately, I’ve noticed that a question guides my decisions: “Is this safe or not?” Many things measure safety: will it cause me physical harm or mental harm, how much energy will be expended, how comfortable or uncomfortable will I feel, and what is the risk involved? I do not lead with, “Am I safe,” as is typical for the Enneagram 6. But that is a leadin…