It’s part of the patriarchy to force women into loving being mothers. A woman or a person with a female body or even a man or a piece person with a male body however, a person identifies being a parent is the hardest job in the world.
Yes, it’s harder than hunting, yes, it’s harder than finance, yes it’s even harder than surgery. Because when you’re done doing any of those things, you might have to go home have a drink go to therapy, but that’s not who you are again on the Groundhog Day that his parenting.
Couple of decades ago there was this whole idea that takes the religion. Reality is about one out of every five people is really designed to enjoy parenting. That the patriarchy and the military industrial complex needs bodies so making bodies is glamorized. How do you feel after you make the new body is criticized. Then you need surgery and diets.
I celebrate every woman who has ever said I don’t wanna be a parent. I celebrate every man or every person who has ever said I do not want to be responsible to make another human being. The fact that we have to force so many people to have babies proves how out of balance it is. The effect that too many human beings is having on the planet is obvious. What’s the point of having a child that you can’t feed and educate and help optimize themselves as of being? Wouldn’t it be better to be a loving aunt that had the mental and emotional space to go and help a friend or a sister
This forced birth is so indoctrinated. I love my son. I wouldn’t trade him for the world, but it changed my life. My life will never be mine fully again. That is not a complaint men. My age have studied and traveled far more than I have many of the things that I’m feeling like I finally have the time in space to do they’ve already done and they want to settle down.
Good men good fathers matter so much and they can make or break a woman’s heart and soul when it comes to giving birth and raising a child.
But the very act of creating and pushing another human being through you and out of you an extension of you that always exist in the world being responsible in that way for the existence of another being takes everything.
I’ve recently been watching Grey’s Anatomy catching up because I didn’t get to watch it while I was raising my kid and working. No one works harder than Bailey in that show. She’s an amazing surgeon and she’s a loving mother, but the strain on her as a being the lack of rest The fact that our marriage is fallen apart and she is got no one filling her cut back up. Is the truth about parenting and mothering, especially in a world where you can almost count on a divorce, you can almost count on infidelity, and unless you have the rare part, who knows how to show up and love you While you’re doing the things that it takes to be a mom you can’t imagine.
Thanks so much, Naomi. I get so tired of people saying to mothers things like, "You're going to miss those days," after a mother vents or even complains about a stage of childhood. It's done in a way that minimizes the pain the mother feels in that moment, shaming the mother for potentially not appreciating the time. That same shame you name as the patriarchal tool to keep women in their place.
We have to stop this. We have to honor the fact that people need to be able to choose for themselves. That starts with being okay with honest observations, like, "Parenting is hard."
This comes back to the abuse and dehumanization of people. Men don’t get a choice about being the protector and the provider, even if they might prefer to be the nurturer, women don’t get a choice and if they’re tired of being a nurturer, then there’s something wrong with them because they’re supposed to be grateful.
Thinking in terms of every single human being has autonomy and authority over their body and their life is a very important principle.
Someone complaining doesn’t mean they don’t love their child. Just means that sometimes parent parenting in life and being human is hard.
Keep up the good work, Michelle we need more and more voices sharing this kind of thinking
I agree with you 1000%!
It’s part of the patriarchy to force women into loving being mothers. A woman or a person with a female body or even a man or a piece person with a male body however, a person identifies being a parent is the hardest job in the world.
Yes, it’s harder than hunting, yes, it’s harder than finance, yes it’s even harder than surgery. Because when you’re done doing any of those things, you might have to go home have a drink go to therapy, but that’s not who you are again on the Groundhog Day that his parenting.
Couple of decades ago there was this whole idea that takes the religion. Reality is about one out of every five people is really designed to enjoy parenting. That the patriarchy and the military industrial complex needs bodies so making bodies is glamorized. How do you feel after you make the new body is criticized. Then you need surgery and diets.
I celebrate every woman who has ever said I don’t wanna be a parent. I celebrate every man or every person who has ever said I do not want to be responsible to make another human being. The fact that we have to force so many people to have babies proves how out of balance it is. The effect that too many human beings is having on the planet is obvious. What’s the point of having a child that you can’t feed and educate and help optimize themselves as of being? Wouldn’t it be better to be a loving aunt that had the mental and emotional space to go and help a friend or a sister
This forced birth is so indoctrinated. I love my son. I wouldn’t trade him for the world, but it changed my life. My life will never be mine fully again. That is not a complaint men. My age have studied and traveled far more than I have many of the things that I’m feeling like I finally have the time in space to do they’ve already done and they want to settle down.
Good men good fathers matter so much and they can make or break a woman’s heart and soul when it comes to giving birth and raising a child.
But the very act of creating and pushing another human being through you and out of you an extension of you that always exist in the world being responsible in that way for the existence of another being takes everything.
I’ve recently been watching Grey’s Anatomy catching up because I didn’t get to watch it while I was raising my kid and working. No one works harder than Bailey in that show. She’s an amazing surgeon and she’s a loving mother, but the strain on her as a being the lack of rest The fact that our marriage is fallen apart and she is got no one filling her cut back up. Is the truth about parenting and mothering, especially in a world where you can almost count on a divorce, you can almost count on infidelity, and unless you have the rare part, who knows how to show up and love you While you’re doing the things that it takes to be a mom you can’t imagine.
I love the honesty. Great share Michelle.
Thanks so much, Naomi. I get so tired of people saying to mothers things like, "You're going to miss those days," after a mother vents or even complains about a stage of childhood. It's done in a way that minimizes the pain the mother feels in that moment, shaming the mother for potentially not appreciating the time. That same shame you name as the patriarchal tool to keep women in their place.
We have to stop this. We have to honor the fact that people need to be able to choose for themselves. That starts with being okay with honest observations, like, "Parenting is hard."
This comes back to the abuse and dehumanization of people. Men don’t get a choice about being the protector and the provider, even if they might prefer to be the nurturer, women don’t get a choice and if they’re tired of being a nurturer, then there’s something wrong with them because they’re supposed to be grateful.
Thinking in terms of every single human being has autonomy and authority over their body and their life is a very important principle.
Someone complaining doesn’t mean they don’t love their child. Just means that sometimes parent parenting in life and being human is hard.
Keep up the good work, Michelle we need more and more voices sharing this kind of thinking